APPROACH
Discover the difference of an approach beyond the ordinary.
I stand at the intersection of psychotherapy and life coaching, offering a unique approach that transcends traditional barriers.
Merely uncovering the "Why" or the root of an issue doesn't necessarily resolve it. Psychoherapy's focus on insight and awareness, while powerful, can be limited by conventional guidelines that restrict how clinicians can interact with and offer solutions to their clients.
It is for this reason, I have embraced a dynamic approach that combines the introspective depth of psychotherapy with the action-driven and highly interactive nature of empowerment life and love coaching. My goal transcends mere recovery; I breathe fire into the hearts of my clients.
I break thresholds.
I seek to provide a profound transformation that empowers individuals and couples to build relationships of any kind that are not just resilient but deeply enriching. My passion is to ignite introspection, to encourage individuals to voice the unvoiced, and to bravely confront the roots of relational attachment wounds and the complexities of emotional availability with raw intimacy fostering true human connection.
It's amazing what can happen when you pair efficiency with performance. Proficiency with action oriented power. Or It’s amazing what can happen when you pair the efficiency of psychotherapy with the action powered performance of empowerment coaching.
I am London Laed and I am one of the fiercest motivators you will ever meet. Whether you are overcoming your greatest heartbreak, fears of the unknown, or finding your dream life partner - I do not give up on you until your goals are met.
People will do almost anything to run away from pain. The irony is, the stronger the attempt to escape it, the more pain you are met with. Pain grows stronger, just like voices get louder when attempting to silence something important. But what if there was a way to make the process fun, playful, adventurous, easy and light? What if there was a way to make something life changing, as close to seamless as possible?
The art of overcoming life's challenges is not to avoid the pain of the challenges or to avoid the challenges altogether. Rather, it comes down to how gracefully you approach the inevitable. Pain is one of the greatest catalysts to change, but that is only because most of us don’t understand or learn the lesson the first or second time it is presented.
There is another way - through compassionate self-awareness and self-acceptance. To design such an approach is an art form. That is where I come in. You will go through a rebirth in the least painful way under my constructive approach.
I will show you who you really are, including parts of you that you’re afraid to see. Your hidden self holds your greatest power (even when you feel the most lost or hopeless). I help people find “home” in themselves and in others. I promote human connection in all forms. I help you find the essence of who you really are. I help you envision and materialize it into the life you truly wish to lead and align it into a version that is for your highest well-being.
I focus on love, and so much more because although relationships are a major focus for many of my clients, life is about so much more. Therefore, I take a comprehensive approach depending on the needs and desires of each client. Through our work together we address multiple facets of life, because life truly doesn't work in isolated spheres, and each moving part affects the whole.
MY METHODOLOGIES
Psychodynamic and Psychoanalytic: The unconscious mind, relationship with primary caregivers, attachment style, recurring themes and emotional patterns, ego-defense mechanisms, and expression of emotions. Addressing the masculine and feminine energies in both relationships with self and others.
Internal Family Systems: addressing trauma within the family system, the roles we subconsciously play versus consciously play, how triangulation within interpersonal relationships and boundaries or lack thereof are formed and impact us.
Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Quickly identifying negative core schema, cognitive distortions that are a distorted lens from which our perspective to see things objectively becomes clouded, underlying negative beliefs and thought reframing through disputing and refuting our cognitions guide our beliefs and our beliefs guide our feelings which guide our overall life experience as either positive or negative. Judgment of the self and others and how that transfers into the relationship with oneself and others.
Solution focused: Emphasis is on what is actually changeable and the numerous possibilities available, clients are accountable in creating their own reality, motivation toward goal setting and achievement, (Note: describe what we’ve done for rosie). Concierge Coaching: systemic linear motivation
Narrative Therapy: Deconstruction of false self-narrative and reconstruction of true self narrative. Externalizing the issue as separate from self-identity, highlighting key strengths of character and fostering the ability to create optimistic outcomes.
Neuro Linguistic Programming: Rapidly shifting to positive mindset, eliminating negative self-talk to creating healthy verbal substitutions, changing limiting behaviors and unwanted habits into building effective strategies when stuck.
Psychodrama & Shadow Work: Identifying the hidden and darker self versus the known and accepted self, then externalizing the isolated internal suppressed parts of you and integrating them into a cohesive solid core identity for further self-actualization.
Gestalt Therapy: Balancing polarities within us, alleviates unresolved feelings including: anger, depression, anxiety, pain and resentment. Completing cycling of experience through creating closure in circumstances where external closure is not available, otherwise known as completing unfinished business.
MY METHODOLOGY
IN ACTION:
Solution-Focused Psychotherapy with applied Somatic Trauma Releasing Techniques.
Solution-Focused Psychotherapy Approach
In my practice, I embrace both the complexity and emotional challenges of the human experience. I welcome clients who seek to untangle the roots of persistent frustrations due to negative patterns resulting from mental health issues. With short-term clients, our journey is one of swift and focused intervention, addressing the core issues that manifest as anxiety, depression, mood disorders, or lack of motivation. Once the immediate goals are achieved, some clients choose to continue our work, exploring deeper layers and peripheral concerns. Others opt for periodic “maintenance sessions,” ensuring they stay aligned with their path, maintaining balance, and addressing acute issues as they surface. Each course of treatment, whether short-term or long-term, is a step towards reclaiming equilibrium and fostering enduring resilience.
Unlike many psychotherapists who just focus on emotionally validating and uncovering the “why,” I approach doing so as simply the first, brief step. Time in my sessions is more primarily dedicated to tackling deep rooted issues through actionable accountability holding and behavioral change. Instead of only, “why do you feel this way?” I consistently balance focus towards “why do you feel this way and what can you do to change it?” The result is clients gaining perspective on what their life will be like once those changes are made. Thus, my psychotherapy approach is highly motivational and solution oriented.
Empowerment Life Coaching Approach
My empowerment approach is geared specifically towards addressing issues with poor communication skills, social anxiety, low motivational drive, low self-esteem or confidence, stress-management, or lack of overall purpose.
Unlike many life coaches who take primarily a cheerleader role, I utilize the unique blend of my psychotherapy skills and instinct to go beyond the typical and to rewire the way my clients operate both internally and externally. The result is believing in unlimited possibilities for yourself and acting in alignment with that. I believe in you until you believe in yourself and I am exceptionally interactive in holding my clients accountable both during and outside of session.
Couples Approach
As a couples therapist, I cultivate a sanctuary, a haven where couples can express their fears, dreams, and disappointments without fear of judgment. It is a delicate dance of empathy, insight, and action where I aim to illuminate the shadows cast by contempt and reignite the flickering flames of affection. Progress in therapy often unfolds at its own pace, requiring patience and perseverance from both partners, and a willingness to confront uncomfortable truths.
Within the confines of therapy, I've learned that beneath the veneer of discord lies woven intricate threads of unmet needs, unspoken desires, and unresolved conflicts. Couples often arrive at the therapist's doorsteps when the chasm between them has widened, when the silence between their exchanges has become deafening. Yet, it is within this space of vulnerability that the seeds of transformation are sown.
Unlike many couples therapists who hyper emphasize the difficulties and differences creating unhappiness in each party, my approach is much more constructive towards enhancing the relationship through highlighting strengths and deeply understanding the language in which their partner speaks their needs.
After going through couples therapy only 70% of couples end up staying in their relationship, while 95% of my couples end up staying together. This additional 25% success rate in my practice is because I apply a unique methodology to help couples experience an entirely new and positive version of their relationship.
Couples never feel sides are taken with me because I hold both parties equally accountable for the symptoms of the relationship. I focus on translating perceived bad behaviors of each member of the couple as bids for connection and compounded unmet needs. I give a voice to behaviors that on the surface seem either hurftul or impossible for the other to understand. I help couples understand each other's intent, and the ways in which that intent translates into sabotaging behaviors. Couples shift out of unwanted behaviors almost immediately with me because they gain a new found perspective on what is actually being said versus how something is heard.
Dating Coaching Approach
Seeing people using dating as a self-value assessment tool was hard for me to watch because it is not the appropriate use for dating. Self-value should come from within.
Dating is a process with the objective to find the right individual match, not about quantity of dates. Furthermore, dating should be fun and enjoyable. If it feels hard, it is being done incorrectly. In dating coaching I help clients with aesthetic self presentation, selecting their appropriate dating type based on the clients individual values, personality and lifestyle. I develop client’s skills in flirting, the art of compelling conversation, how to accurately assess dates for true compatibility, how to gauge the romantic cues and interest level of the other party,and ultimately how to find their person. Just as importantly, we work on enjoying the process along the way.
Many dating coaches focus on blanket techniques including: game playing, acquiring a high quantity of dates to present the illusion of the love life advancing. This results in clients repeating the same negative relationship patterns over again, clients going after the wrong type of partner and clients ultimately being disappointed because the romantic connections either fail or repeat a painful unwanted pattern. They will get you what you want but not what you need for long term fulfillment.
This is because I include the intricacies of understanding the deep psychological patterns that impact how we date and how we love. By creating a profile for each individual client of their dating style, personality on a deep level as well as their needs and desires, my clients find that they are dating with intention, and with specific parameters for finding and keeping a healthy relationship that can stand the test of time.